Recovery.

So many women out there are unaware that postpartum depression occurs in almost 15-20% of new mothers. There is no "known" cause, nor is there any specific "cure". BUT with time, support and encouragement it is treatable.

I, like so many others, am still waiting for my revelation. I am waiting for the day that I wake up and no longer worry about how I will take on the day or how I will fight irrational fears and terrifying thoughts. I take life one day at a time and follow a few simple steps to help myself feel better. Thanks for the support, Mom. You know that a lot of these came from you. (You should've been a counselor.)

1. I take a vitamin EVERY morning. There may not be any proof that it will help to shorten the length of time that you feel depressed, but it does ensure that you are getting the right amount of nutrients.

2. I drink plenty of water. Whether you are breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, water will help to keep you well nourished and will combat exhaustion. I carry a water bottle EVERYWHERE I GO.

3. I challenge myself to see the positive in the simple things. My first words to Mya every morning when she wakes are "Good morning, I LOVE YOU." When she smiles, I can focus on the happiest part of my life. Her unconditional love can bring me out of the worst day.

4. I take some alone time everyday. A hot bubble bath and a chance to focus on YOU for even 20 minutes is a lifesaver. Sometimes I close my eyes in the water and think to myself "This will help to wash away my troubles". It sounds silly, but it works. After my bath, I usually then spend at least 10 minutes laying flat on my back, eyes closed and practicing deep breathing. This is my opportunity to refocus.

5. I surround myself with the people that I love. If my husband is not home, I will visit with my Gram, Mom, sister, sister-in-law, mother-in-law, father-in-law, etc. Having those who support and love you around helps to remember that YOU are important and loved.

6. I remind myself everyday that I am a good mother. My daughter is healthy and thriving. I am responsible for her well-being and I am doing a good job.

7. I continue to remember compliments from others and recite them to myself when I feel down. Such as this: My husband says to me "You are so good with her. There is never a doubt in my mind that you won't be a good mom. I always knew you would be." These reminders will make you smile :)

8. Any negative thoughts I will write on paper. I will recite them out loud to myself and then I will burn the paper. I tell myself as it burns "I burn these thoughts from my mind forever". The act of writing the fear, worry or negative thought down and burning it helps to release that negative energy. Crazy? Try it.

9. I take my recovery one day at a time. Reminding myself that it is a growing process. That the Lord will carry me through. I just have to be patient. It will not happen all at once, but it will happen. I WILL GET BETTER.

10. Finally. At the end of each day, I sit down and reflect on the day. What did I do that was good for ME? What did I do that was good for Mya? Did I make someone smile? I then say my prayers and ask for the blessing of my family and friends, and the following day......I begin brand new.